As I say goodbye to yet another birthday I am in awe of how fast the time has gone. Its amazing and somewhat scary. I am now what they call the big 3-0. If your one for timetables (which I’m not) this may be a time for panic. You have those around you giving you the “Its all downhill from here speeches” or the “You should be thinking of settling down speeches” and don’t get me started on the “ticking time clock speech.” My response to all these has been a big bout of laughter.
Being a typical Libra I am indecisve by nature, so I don’t do too well with agendas and plans. While most of my friends are married, and have children and appear relatively happy, I have never thought this to be my path. Not to say that path is not a good one. By nature I am fiercely independent. I love having no commitments. I’m not ruling out that it can’t happen. I’m a firm believer in that whats meant to be will be. However no rush for this lady!!!
My 20s where a whirlwind. Your 20s is the time when you will have alot of your first real world experiences such as living on your own, and establishing your career (or in my case 3 or 4 careers). This is the time when you are finding your footing. I mean a lot of things went down in my 20s. I’ve formed some great friendships, and sadly I’ve had to say goodbye to some old friends. I’ve dallied with relationships, nothing to serious of course:) I’ve dealt with the death of loved ones. I’ve made mistakes (many!!!), had a lot of failures and I’m glad to say a lot of successes. All of these things I can say have made me stronger, wiser, and more importantly OPEN. Open to possibility.
I would be lying if I didn’t say I was sad to say goodbye to my 20s. They hold some of my fondest memories. However I can honestly say that I am looking forward to my second act and what it has in store for me. Although I am still evolving and discovering myself more and more each day I feel more aware of the woman I am. Or better yet the woman I hope to be. I have a number of things I would love to accomplish but I’m going to play it by ear and try to go with the flow. I get in trouble when I think too much:) Thats a great lesson my 20s taught me.
If I could list out my top lessons I’ve learned in my 20s they would be;
1. Its ok to say No!!! (No explanation needed)
2. The word friend is a title that must be earned!!!
3. Live your life for you!!! (My approval is the only thing of real value!!!)
4. Its Ok to make mistakes (I made a lot and I’m sure my 30s will be filled with them) I give you permission to make lots of them.
5. Take Risk!!!
6. Embrace the Suck!!! At some point life is going to kick your ass!!! There are going to be days or times when you feel like crap and want nothing more than to stay in bed. Thats okay. Just don’t stay there to long!!!
7. Its okay to be vulnerable (This is something my fiercely independent self is continuing to work on).
8. Speak things into Existence!!! This really works!!!
9. Get to know you (your likes, dislikes, needs, passions!!!)
10. Have Standards (know what you will tolerate and what you won’t)
11. HAVE FUN!!! And lots of it if you can!!! (Definitely planning on having lots of fun in my 30s, maybe even more so than in my 20s)
I’m sure there are more lessons coming my way and I await their arrival!!! All and all I feel blessed to have made it to another year and I’m eager to see what 30 has in store.
I’ll keep you all posted!!!:)
-Good Music!!! Had Stevie Nicks’ ‘Dreams’ in Rotation all day!!!
-Productive work on the site w/my Twinny!!!
-Hot cups of tea:) The caffeine kept up good momentum!!!
-Cuddles w/my cats!!! Nice way to break up my work mode!!!
-OWN Channel’s Super Soul Sunday!!! I discovered Dr. Brene Brown & had a lot of Aha moments!!!
This is something I think every parent should follow!!! Powerful!!!
The Wholehearted Parenting Manifesto
Above all else, I want you to know that you are loved and loveable.
You will learn this from my words and actions—the lessons on love are in how I treat you and how I treat myself.
I want you to engage with the world from a place of worthiness.
You will learn that you are worthy of love, belonging, and joy every time you see me practice self-compassion and embrace my own imperfections.
We will practice courage in our family by showing up, letting ourselves be seen, and honoring vulnerability. We will share our stories of struggle and strength. There will always be room in our home for both.
We will teach you compassion by practicing compassion with ourselves first; then with each other. We will set and respect boundaries; we will honor hard work, hope, and perseverance. Rest and play will be family values, as well as family practices.
You will learn accountability and respect by watching me make mistakes and make amends, and by watching how I ask for what I need and talk about how I feel.
I want you to know joy, so together we will practice gratitude.
I want you to feel joy, so together we will learn how to be vulnerable.
When uncertainty and scarcity visit, you will be able to draw from the spirit that is a part of our everyday life.
Together we will cry and face fear and grief. I will want to take away your pain, but instead I will sit with you and teach you how to feel it.
We will laugh and sing and dance and create. We will always have permission to be ourselves with each other. No matter what, you will always belong here.
As you begin your Wholehearted journey, the greatest gift that I can give to you is to live and love with my whole heart and to dare greatly.
I will not teach or love or show you anything perfectly, but I will let you see me, and I will always hold sacred the gift of seeing you. Truly, deeply, seeing you.
Reprinted from Daring Greatly by Brené Brown by arrangement with Gotham Books, a member of Penguin Group (USA) Inc., Copyright (c) 2012.
Read more: http://www.oprah.com/own-supersoulsunday/blogs/Dr-Bren233-Brown-The-Wholehearted-Parenting-Manifesto#ixzz2OTSIY7cy